My body, My choice includes: My choice, My Responsibility, then My Shame.
You should know before you go any further, this will be a frank article and so may offend your sensitive nature.
There for BEWARE!
Ooooh! What shame is that?
“My Body”
We will get to that, but let’s start with “My Body”. It is the only body you have and the only one you get in this life. What you do to it is up to you. Or better yet, it is your responsibility. For a female, the power to create life is hers alone in the eggs. Along with that power, when giving birth, she becomes a Mother, with the ability to shape another person, to feed, to protect, to give values, which affect that child or children for the rest of their life(lives). What she teaches her child will also be reflected in the children of your children, and so on and so forth.
If you have forgotten or never new this idea, I present this is then:
Exodus 22:15 And if a man entice a virgin that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely pay a dowry for her to be his wife.
Part two: Exodus 22:16 If her father utterly refuse to give her unto him, he shall pay money according to the dowry of virgins.
This is only for a virgin. This has been used for making money by the father. Justice can be perverted in many ways, this is only one way. But, every choice has consequences, including the abuse of justice.
Add to that Leviticus 19:29 Profane not thy daughter, to make her a harlot, lest the land fall into harlotry, and the land become full of lewdness.
I included the last, because the paying money to the father, makes possible the idea of prostitution or harlotry. Anything can be abused and turned into something vile. The LORD is not happy with these actions.
The part of the Covenant shown in Exodus 22, gives the justification of the values that where taught as recently as the 1970’s. Even in stories and older movies we see the phrase: “Shot Gun Wedding” was because a male had enticed my Daughter or Niece or Cousin or Sister, got her pregnant and must therefore marry her and be her husband. This has also been used for entrapping a man to be a husband, where claims was made regarding a male, even if there was no truth in it.
The defense used by the males could be that she was sleeping with others and she just wanted to make him pay. So the proof of fatherhood became common under such conditions. When this was not effective, the cry of rape would be used. And so we see that things began to degrade further and further. It did not create good will in the family, nor between men and women. Who can be trusted. That first love, and being virgins makes the trust issue more of a give-in. Well, at least at the start of a relationship.
Up to the 1970’s, a common admonishment was: “Keep your legs crossed” for girls. Males do not get off in the HOLY LAWS either.
While women can turn on/off desire, males are most always ready to have sex. A old saying was: “A woman needs a reason to have sex, a man only needs a place.” This does not honor men or women. Yet, most of the Biblical Laws about sex are concerned mostly with a man controlling himself. Leviticus 19 and 20 are laws about what a man is or is not allowed to do regarding sex. Yes there are some Laws which are about a female or are specific to her, but much less than for a male.
My Choice!
Yes it is your choice to have sex, or not. If you have given up your virginity because you wanted to be equal to men, that was your choice! You can continue to act like a men, enjoying sex any number of times a day with as many partners as you accept. Note: most men can only do that a couple of times a day. This means that you can have more sex than men. It seems that for decades, women have been pushed to do just that. To have more sex with as many as possible, to be like how men are viewed. It is your choice to give in to such pressures!
However, any man worth having as a husband, will not what to have a family with a slut or prostitute that had sex with a great many others. I gave sayings for girls, here is one for the men: “When you sleep with a woman, you also sleep with everyone of her partners”. While in some ways this is true for women also, there are infections which can be given her that she does not know of, yet he has a painful knowledge it in a couple of days.
How much damage will he or she do to the family they create, when one or the other, perhaps both have had no respect for family, children or their partner, . . . . And what about those hidden illnesses?
For the same reasons, most women have worried about how their man has behaved. For this will show a lot about how trustworthy this man will be to me and the family. Evidence that actions speaks louder than words.
Do you really want to have a partner with a lot of experience with other partners?
It is Your Choice!
My Responsibility?
Okay, if you have become pregnant, you are now carrying at least one life within you, which is not your life. It is now extremely easy to have that life or lives removed from you body. Yet, that does not make it, not a life or lives. I have seen too many women that have miscarried(lost the life within the womb), mourn for the loss of that life. So I know it is possible to know that you are carrying a person within you. Yet, to take that life, as in an “abortion” would still be killing. Yes, not with a soul yet. But, a child that is not without great value, that could improve to the world, save lives, defend maybe your life, having such great potential. That child is a gift of the LORD, and if HE takes it(as in miscarry), then it is HIS Choice. Your choice is what you will do with YOUR Gifts(Blessings). What you decide, does effect your soul.
That human being within you, could create a family or families, that creates a family or families, and so on.
Have you ever seen a Great-grand-mother or even a Great-great-grand-mother? I have seen and know them. They do exist. Although there are very few of them these days. If you have seen one, you would have noticed the pride she possess with the family she has mothered into existence. Also the respect she is given by all of those children, lifting her up in honor. It has been not just her responsibility but her pride and joy for all to see.
Then “My Shame”
For most of known history, men have gone to war for various reasons. As this is not a discussion about war, I will hold to what is relevant to the subject here. So, in the U.S. Military, we have held the following to be our reason to fight: GOD, Country and Family. Even so, many have changed that to GOD, Family and Country. When we are not out to conquer other lands, and we have not done so for more than a 100 years in the United States of America, we have not conquered new lands. We have defend other people from being conquered. Hence we have put our lives on the line to save other lives in other countries, because it was the right thing to do. We are not to allow others to be destroyed while we can help them, if they ask for help.(According to the Writings of Moses.) That is the LORD our GOD’s position.
So, we defend our Country, where if the country is not safe, our families are not safe. For this reason the two items Country and Family are interchangeable in importance. So this is what us men have been fighting for in America. Not desiring women to be in the fight. This is not a bad thing, except as the women’s movement wants to pass off as evil. That is a shame, because men defend their women and their families so that they can be safe from the attackers. We fight the world, as in war; defense; animals; the ground to get food; business; or whatever action is required to provide for our family. Our women are our hope for a continued future. After all, men can not have babies. Therefore women are the future of the family and the nation. These we defend with our mind, body and life, so that we may have a future and be remembered by our children. When not defending, we must stay ready to defend, and then we are working to improve the lives of our wives and families. As such we may work in dangerous locations and jobs trying to get a better life for those we love. Much trust is required by both the husband and the wife, when they are apart and desires rise, that the spouse will not defile our family.
Yes there are men without a wife or a family, but most would rather have those things to live for. It gives the reason to live. Example: Genesis 2:18 And the LORD God said: ‘It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him.’. Even in the very beginning that man needs his other half, woman.
So we prefer that women are not in danger because they are our families and future. We really want to exist, and want to be loved, respected and honored. But, we cannot have children, nor create the family.
Before I had a wife or looking for a wife, I was never opposed to being able to do those things and let the women go fight the world. In Vietnam, I met men that would rather the women in the U.S.,(burning their bras and declaring they wanted to be treated the same as men) come and fight, so I can go home. (My desire was not war, especially when I did not have a wife and it appeared to be unappreciated at home.) But, I am a man, I cannot have children nor can I teach and build the family in the way my wife could.
There are many differences between men and women, based on what we are designed to perform in our lives. To turn away from the gifts each of us have been designed to perform, is to destroy our own future. This is truly a SHAME and the end of existence, should we continue on the path.
But, a female is the only one to decide the death of the life within? So it is claimed. Yet to do so is take a life(to kill), for various reasons, yet it is still killing a life. Maybe not a soul yet, but definitely a person that is a gift to her as a mother and family to be.
It is SHAME upon any person that takes a life they do not have to take. There are some LAWS that Moses Wrote directed by the ALMIGHTY GOD, that requires death as penalty for breaking them. Save for those items, it is a crime to take a life that is not required to be taken.
To that end, “My Body, My Choice” really does create MY SHAME for the lack of thought and knowledge. It is not acceptable to rape, where rape was sex forced an unwilling partner. If a child was created, perhaps an abortion is required.
On the other hand it is just as wrong to declare rape, when rape was not rape. Both rape and the false declaration of rape destroy lives. Both are crimes, where individuals should be held accountable for their actions.
Deuteronomy 19:18 And the judges shall inquire diligently; and, behold, if the witness be a false witness, and hath testified falsely against his brother; 19 then shall ye do unto him, as he had purposed to do unto his brother; so shalt thou put away the evil from the midst of thee.
If you have declared a RAPE and it be found to be a false claim, then what would have happened to him shall happen to you instead. That is justice for all.
We cannot let our emotions take control what we do. A man must control his desires and so a woman must equally control herself. IF not then SHAME and the consequences are real.
My Body, My choice, My Responsibility, then My Shame needs to include all of these thoughts when You decide what happens next. It is no simple thing being done, killing.
IT is to our benefit to HEARKEN until the LIVING GOD OF ISRAEL, and to our pain and shame to do otherwise.
My prayer is that The LORD grant you eyes that see, ears that hear and an understanding heart, then you return unto HIM soon!(Isaiah 6: 9 And He said: ‘Go, and tell this people: hear ye indeed, but understand not; and see ye indeed, but perceive not. 10 Make the heart of this people fat, and make their ears heavy, and shut their eyes; lest they, seeing with their eyes, and hearing with their ears, and understanding with their heart, return, and be healed.’)
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